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Wellness
Published Friday Jan 04, 2019 by Erica Arvanitis

What I’ve Learned About Loving Myself

Personal Growth
Meditation

These days, we live in a world where self-love is literally everywhere. It’s all over your Instagram feed. It’s in your workplace when chatting with coworkers. It’s present at your yoga practice and most importantly; it’s within you. 

Is self-love a face mask at the end of a stressful day? A soothing bath to wash away the insecurity you felt on that first date? Or maybe it’s heading into a therapy session ready to discuss your triggers. Self-love takes on many forms. It can be all of those things—or it could be none of them. But what all these activities have in common is care. The act of self-love is proving to yourself that you’re worth the effort and time that goes into your rituals, whatever they may be. 

Finding self-love hasn’t always been smooth for me. I spent the majority of my life feeling like I wasn’t good enough, allowing my insecurities and anxiety to swallow me whole. My journey to self-love is still constantly evolving. I have days where I wake up feeling so free, so content with myself, so real. Other days, I wake up shrouded with self-doubt and swarming with insecurities. But now, it’s all in how I handle that anxiety throughout my day, and that’s where self-love comes in. 

Whether you’re searching for a way to turn down the volume of that overly-critical voice in your head or want to start 2019 on an authentic note, here are some of the go-to lessons I’ve learned about navigating self-love. 


Go at your own pace. 

Around this time of year especially—oh hey 2019—there is an overwhelming pressure to quickly change ourselves for the better. In years past, I’ve found myself directing energy to what others were doing—like committing to be more fit with a new gym membership—and it caused me to compare their goals with mine. They were always doing more, and I wasn’t doing enough. 

2019 is the year of breaking that pattern! The more you focus on what others are doing, the less attention you give yourself. And here’s a little piece of advice: whatever you are doing is enough. Whether it’s taking five minutes out of your day to go for a walk outside and meditate, signing up for weekly classes at your favorite yoga studio, or making the choice to start therapy, these decisions are yours and no one else’s. You don’t have to accomplish anything according to any timeline, so give yourself permission to move at your own pace. 


Embrace your vulnerability. 

What if your “weaknesses” were actually your strengths? For me, I had been living most of my life thinking that my sensitive nature was “too much.” A burden for the people around me. It wasn’t until I made a choice to start therapy almost three years ago that I was introduced to the idea that vulnerability is my superpower. It’s how I express myself and connect with others, so why would I hide it? Instead, I leaned into it. The world needs more of us softies, let’s show them how compassion is done. 


Create healthy boundaries. 

Just like self-love isn’t always a walk in the park, setting boundaries can be challenging, too. Establishing healthy boundaries is a way to make space for your authenticity to shine—and it’s at the core of self-love. For me, setting boundaries always seemed like a negative thing until I started actively doing it. It’s not fun to put them in place, and you need to get honest with yourself as to why you left those doors open for so long. But in the end, it’s worth the growth. Remember that bringing these boundaries into your life is about you. You have all you need to experience your authentic self, so start trusting the lines you’re creating. 


Make mistakes, often. 

We all fear the dreaded “F” word–failure. This whole “self-love” train feels smooth when things are going well—you’re in a healthy relationship, you just got a promotion, etc.—but when we mess up, it’s not so easy. 

It’s a revolutionary act to not only make mistakes, but to talk about them. How will I learn if I don’t delve into why I made that decision? Failure is the fire that fuels my growth; it teaches me how to turn right instead of left, and where I should shift my focus for the future. That’s why self-love is something I consistently practice. 

It’s not an accomplishment, a gold star, or something you finish. I’ll be learning how to love myself all my life. It’s essential to keep pushing, keep working at this ritual of self-love for the moments when I’m anxious, worried, or things don’t go as planned. This healthy habit acts as the roots of my inner self, helping me to steer clear of negative self-talk when times are tough.


Creating a safe space for your authentic self to flourish takes time, effort, and investment. Whether it’s something small like leaving a party early, or a big decision like setting a boundary with someone close to you, make the art of self-love part of your daily practice and remember that you are worthy of loving yourself fully

 

If you want to learn more about self-love and navigating mental health, follow Erica’s journey at @anxietyerica or read her blog!
 

Erica Arvanitis MINDBODY
Written by
Erica Arvanitis
Copywriter
About the author
A copywriter by day, Erica spends her free time mastering the art of puzzles while forcing her 10-year-old Chow mix to wear sweaters. With experience in PR, social media, marketing, and copywriting, Erica lives and breathes the written word. Warning: don’t test her on Friends trivia - she will win every time.
MINDBODY holiday drinks horoscope
Wellness
Published Tuesday Dec 03, 2019 by Ashley Tracey

What Holiday Cocktail (Or Mocktail) Should You Sip On, Based On Your Zodiac Sign? 

Drink

It’s the holiday season, and that means colder weather, shopping for presents, and cozying up next to the fire with your loved ones. And of course, holiday parties! What goes great with all these activities? The perfect holiday drink, according to your zodiac sign!

If you’re not looking to indulge this season (or at all), any of these fun beverages can easily be crafted into a mocktail!

Aries

March 20-April 20 
Your Holiday Drink: Cranberry-Jalapeño Martini

This drink is tart and a little sassy just like you, Aries. To make this unique cocktail, you will need ½ cup cranberry juice, ½ cup fresh or frozen cranberries, ½ teaspoon chopped jalapeno, and a dash of raw sugar. Combine all the ingredients in a saucepan on the stove on low heat to make a cranberry syrup. When you are ready to serve, grab a shaker and add ice, 3 ounces of vodka, 1 tablespoon cranberry juice, and 1 tablespoon of your cooled cranberry syrup. Give it a good shake (you don’t stir) and pour it into a martini glass. Enjoy! 

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Aries

March 20-April 20 
Your Holiday Drink: Cranberry-Jalapeño Martini

This drink is tart and a little sassy just like you, Aries. To make this unique cocktail, you will need ½ cup cranberry juice, ½ cup fresh or frozen cranberries, ½ teaspoon chopped jalapeno, and a dash of raw sugar. Combine all the ingredients in a saucepan on the stove on low heat to make a cranberry syrup. When you are ready to serve, grab a shaker and add ice, 3 ounces of vodka, 1 tablespoon cranberry juice, and 1 tablespoon of your cooled cranberry syrup. Give it a good shake (you don’t stir) and pour it into a martini glass. Enjoy! 

Taurus

April 20-May 21
Your Holiday Drink: Eggnog 

There is nothing like a holiday classic for you, Taurus. Cozy up with some eggnog as you create your sacred holiday space. To make your own, separate one large egg and use an electric mixer to beat the yolk until stiff and creamy. Then add 1 teaspoon of sugar to the egg white and mix until peaks form. Then, slowly fold the egg white mixture into the egg yolk with a wooden spoon. In a separate bowl, beat 1 ounce of heavy cream with ½ teaspoon of almond and vanilla extracts and another teaspoon of sugar until stiff. Then slowly fold the cream into the egg mixture. Option: add rum, brandy, or bourbon and stir. Refrigerate or serve immediately with some nutmeg and cinnamon as garnish. 

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Taurus

April 20-May 21
Your Holiday Drink: Eggnog 

There is nothing like a holiday classic for you, Taurus. Cozy up with some eggnog as you create your sacred holiday space. To make your own, separate one large egg and use an electric mixer to beat the yolk until stiff and creamy. Then add 1 teaspoon of sugar to the egg white and mix until peaks form. Then, slowly fold the egg white mixture into the egg yolk with a wooden spoon. In a separate bowl, beat 1 ounce of heavy cream with ½ teaspoon of almond and vanilla extracts and another teaspoon of sugar until stiff. Then slowly fold the cream into the egg mixture. Option: add rum, brandy, or bourbon and stir. Refrigerate or serve immediately with some nutmeg and cinnamon as garnish. 

Gemini 

May 21-June 21
Your Holiday Drink: Pomegranate Gin Cocktail

This smooth and delicious drink is a conversation starter just like you, Gemini. Make a large batch and have it ready to go for your next holiday party. Add 2 ounces of pomegranate juice, 2 ounces of orange juice, 2 teaspoons of honey, 2 cups of sparkling water, and 4 ounces of gin to a pitcher and stir to mix. Pour over ice and garnish with fresh thyme and orange slices. Then serve it up alongside your charming, witty banter.

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Gemini 

May 21-June 21
Your Holiday Drink: Pomegranate Gin Cocktail

This smooth and delicious drink is a conversation starter just like you, Gemini. Make a large batch and have it ready to go for your next holiday party. Add 2 ounces of pomegranate juice, 2 ounces of orange juice, 2 teaspoons of honey, 2 cups of sparkling water, and 4 ounces of gin to a pitcher and stir to mix. Pour over ice and garnish with fresh thyme and orange slices. Then serve it up alongside your charming, witty banter.

Cancer 

June 21-July 23
Your Holiday Drink: Poinsettia

This festive yet fancy cocktail is perfect for you, Cancer. It’s quick and easy to make, so you can spend more time hosting all your fabulous dinner parties (in the comfort of your own home, of course). Pour 1 ounce of cranberry juice into a champagne flute. Add a splash Triple Sec and top it off with your favorite bubbles. Then, garnish with 24k gold glitter and enjoy the praise. JK on the gold, but you never know with Cancer. 

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Cancer 

June 21-July 23
Your Holiday Drink: Poinsettia

This festive yet fancy cocktail is perfect for you, Cancer. It’s quick and easy to make, so you can spend more time hosting all your fabulous dinner parties (in the comfort of your own home, of course). Pour 1 ounce of cranberry juice into a champagne flute. Add a splash Triple Sec and top it off with your favorite bubbles. Then, garnish with 24k gold glitter and enjoy the praise. JK on the gold, but you never know with Cancer. 

Leo

July 23-August 23
Your Holiday Drink: Sparkling Celebration Punch

Every Leo deserves a celebration and this punch is the purrfect crowd-pleaser. This fun beverage is easy to whip up at your next holiday party. In a punch bowl, mix 1 cup of brandy with ½ cup light agave until blended. Stir in a bottle of your favorite Riesling or sweet wine. Then, add in some more bubbles with a bottle of your favorite sparkling wine. Gather everyone around the punch (so they can sing your praises, obviously) and serve over ice with fresh lime or orange slices.
 

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Leo

July 23-August 23
Your Holiday Drink: Sparkling Celebration Punch

Every Leo deserves a celebration and this punch is the purrfect crowd-pleaser. This fun beverage is easy to whip up at your next holiday party. In a punch bowl, mix 1 cup of brandy with ½ cup light agave until blended. Stir in a bottle of your favorite Riesling or sweet wine. Then, add in some more bubbles with a bottle of your favorite sparkling wine. Gather everyone around the punch (so they can sing your praises, obviously) and serve over ice with fresh lime or orange slices.
 

Virgo

August 23 -September 23
Your Holiday Drink: Sparkling Blackberry Tea Cocktail

This drink is a good go-to break from your usual detox routine, Virgo—and did I mention it is full of antioxidants? To make, steep your favorite tea and then let it cool. Make a simple blackberry syrup by mixing 1 cup sugar, 1 cup water, and ½ cup fresh blackberries on the stove over medium heat. Allow the mixture to simmer for a few minutes until the sugar dissolves. Then, strain and refrigerate. When you’re ready for a drink, fill a wine glass with ice, 1 ounce of chilled steeped tea, ½ ounce of your blackberry syrup, 1 ounce of dry vermouth, and top it with sparkling wine. Stir and garnish with fresh blackberries. 
 

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Virgo

August 23 -September 23
Your Holiday Drink: Sparkling Blackberry Tea Cocktail

This drink is a good go-to break from your usual detox routine, Virgo—and did I mention it is full of antioxidants? To make, steep your favorite tea and then let it cool. Make a simple blackberry syrup by mixing 1 cup sugar, 1 cup water, and ½ cup fresh blackberries on the stove over medium heat. Allow the mixture to simmer for a few minutes until the sugar dissolves. Then, strain and refrigerate. When you’re ready for a drink, fill a wine glass with ice, 1 ounce of chilled steeped tea, ½ ounce of your blackberry syrup, 1 ounce of dry vermouth, and top it with sparkling wine. Stir and garnish with fresh blackberries. 
 

Libra 

September 23-October 23
Your Holiday Drink: Mistletoe Margaritas

Libra, your love of love will be all over this Mistletoe Margarita, which is sure to land you a few extra smooches this holiday season. To make, rim your glass with a lime wedge and dip into coarse salt. In a cocktail shaker, add 2 ounces of Grand Marnier, 1 ½ ounces of tequila, 2 ounces of white cranberry juice, 2 ounces of freshly squeezed lime juice, and 1 ounce of simple syrup and shake. To serve, pour over ice and garnish with a lime wedge and fresh cranberries. Then take a sip, pucker those lips, and get ready for all the adoration.
 

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Libra 

September 23-October 23
Your Holiday Drink: Mistletoe Margaritas

Libra, your love of love will be all over this Mistletoe Margarita, which is sure to land you a few extra smooches this holiday season. To make, rim your glass with a lime wedge and dip into coarse salt. In a cocktail shaker, add 2 ounces of Grand Marnier, 1 ½ ounces of tequila, 2 ounces of white cranberry juice, 2 ounces of freshly squeezed lime juice, and 1 ounce of simple syrup and shake. To serve, pour over ice and garnish with a lime wedge and fresh cranberries. Then take a sip, pucker those lips, and get ready for all the adoration.
 

Scorpio

October 23-November 22
Your Holiday Drink: Chai Hot Toddy 

This sweet, spicy holiday drink is a perfect complement to your sultry energy, Scorpio. In a pot on the stove, bring ½ cup chai tea concentrate and ½ cup whole milk to a simmer over medium-low heat. Remove from heat once hot enough. In a mug, add 1 ounce of brandy and 1 ounce of butterscotch liqueur. Then, top it off with some of your chai tea milk mixture. Stir slightly and dust with crushed graham crackers. This drink is sure to get those infamous, intense Scorpio vibes going.

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Scorpio

October 23-November 22
Your Holiday Drink: Chai Hot Toddy 

This sweet, spicy holiday drink is a perfect complement to your sultry energy, Scorpio. In a pot on the stove, bring ½ cup chai tea concentrate and ½ cup whole milk to a simmer over medium-low heat. Remove from heat once hot enough. In a mug, add 1 ounce of brandy and 1 ounce of butterscotch liqueur. Then, top it off with some of your chai tea milk mixture. Stir slightly and dust with crushed graham crackers. This drink is sure to get those infamous, intense Scorpio vibes going.

Sagittarius

November 22-December 22
Your Holiday Drink: Holiday Mojito 

This White Holiday Mojito is the perfect drink for your adventurous spirit, Sagittarius. In a glass, muddle the juice of one lime with 1 tablespoon of sugar and 8 mint leaves until the leaves have broken down. In a blender, add 2 tablespoons of white rum, 1 tablespoon of coconut rum, and ¼ cup of coconut milk and pulse until smooth. To serve, add ice to your mint sugar mixture, then add your rum coconut mixture and stir to combine. Top with sparkling water, mint, and pomegranate. Sip and enjoy like you’re celebrating the holidays on a tropical beach. 

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Sagittarius

November 22-December 22
Your Holiday Drink: Holiday Mojito 

This White Holiday Mojito is the perfect drink for your adventurous spirit, Sagittarius. In a glass, muddle the juice of one lime with 1 tablespoon of sugar and 8 mint leaves until the leaves have broken down. In a blender, add 2 tablespoons of white rum, 1 tablespoon of coconut rum, and ¼ cup of coconut milk and pulse until smooth. To serve, add ice to your mint sugar mixture, then add your rum coconut mixture and stir to combine. Top with sparkling water, mint, and pomegranate. Sip and enjoy like you’re celebrating the holidays on a tropical beach. 

Capricorn 

December 22-January 20
Your Holiday Drink: Mulled Wine 

There is nothing better for a Capricorn than a tried-and-true holiday mulled wine. This make-ahead drink is sure to keep your guests happy, while you’re still the popular party host. To make, combine 4 cups of apple cider, 1 bottle of your favorite bold red wine, ¼ cup of honey, 2 cinnamon sticks, the zest and juice of 1 orange, 4 whole cloves, and 3 star anise in a large pot on the stove. Bring to a boil and then reduce the heat to simmer for 10 minutes. When your guests arrive, pour into mugs and garnish with an orange slice or cinnamon stick. 

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Capricorn 

December 22-January 20
Your Holiday Drink: Mulled Wine 

There is nothing better for a Capricorn than a tried-and-true holiday mulled wine. This make-ahead drink is sure to keep your guests happy, while you’re still the popular party host. To make, combine 4 cups of apple cider, 1 bottle of your favorite bold red wine, ¼ cup of honey, 2 cinnamon sticks, the zest and juice of 1 orange, 4 whole cloves, and 3 star anise in a large pot on the stove. Bring to a boil and then reduce the heat to simmer for 10 minutes. When your guests arrive, pour into mugs and garnish with an orange slice or cinnamon stick. 

Aquarius

January 20-February 18
Your Holiday Drink: Peppermint Bark Mimosa 

Peppermint Bark Mimosas are a nice mix of classic and refreshingly unique, just like you Aquarius. To make, melt ¼ cup of semisweet chocolate chips and crush 3 candy canes. Dip the rims of your champagne flutes in the melted chocolate and then into crushed up candy canes. Then, add 1 ounce of peppermint schnapps to each glass and top with your favorite champagne or prosecco. These mimosas—and your friendly nature—are sure to get anyone into the holiday spirit.

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Aquarius

January 20-February 18
Your Holiday Drink: Peppermint Bark Mimosa 

Peppermint Bark Mimosas are a nice mix of classic and refreshingly unique, just like you Aquarius. To make, melt ¼ cup of semisweet chocolate chips and crush 3 candy canes. Dip the rims of your champagne flutes in the melted chocolate and then into crushed up candy canes. Then, add 1 ounce of peppermint schnapps to each glass and top with your favorite champagne or prosecco. These mimosas—and your friendly nature—are sure to get anyone into the holiday spirit.

Pisces 

February 18-March 20
Your Holiday Drink: Vanilla Dark and Stormy 

Pisces, this Vanilla Dark and Stormy is sure to warm your heart and calm those strong emotions that may keep you away from the holiday scene. To make, combine 2 cups dark rum with 3 cups ginger beer (not ginger ale), the juice of 4 limes, and a tiny splash of vanilla extract in a pitcher. Serve on the rocks with lime wedges. This is the perfect drink to bring you out of solitude and into a festive mood. 

Looking to learn more about your sign? Get the scoop on your sun, moon, and rising sign here! 

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Pisces 

February 18-March 20
Your Holiday Drink: Vanilla Dark and Stormy 

Pisces, this Vanilla Dark and Stormy is sure to warm your heart and calm those strong emotions that may keep you away from the holiday scene. To make, combine 2 cups dark rum with 3 cups ginger beer (not ginger ale), the juice of 4 limes, and a tiny splash of vanilla extract in a pitcher. Serve on the rocks with lime wedges. This is the perfect drink to bring you out of solitude and into a festive mood. 

Looking to learn more about your sign? Get the scoop on your sun, moon, and rising sign here! 

Ashley Tracey
Written by
Ashley Tracey
Astrologer | Empowerment Coach
About the author
An all-around spiritual badass based in Denver, Colorado, Ashley Tracey is a passionate and empathetic soul whose life purpose is to help others live at their highest potential. Working with clients around the world to empower wholistic well-being, she helps to expand their consciousness and activate soul-centered living.