Mindbody

Download the app

The MINDBODY app

Fitness memberships, workout classes, wellness services, beauty appointments and more.

Install
Woman smiling in mirror
Wellness
Published Thursday Nov 21, 2019 by Sara Lesher

How I Learned to Love My Appearance By Ditching Negative Talk

Personal Growth
Motivation
Perspective

I have always been guilty of negative self-talk. I constantly make little comments about my physical appearance—the way my pants are fitting, the extra frizz in my hair today. The list goes on and on. I think this is something we’ve all been guilty of, maybe without even realizing it. 

I used to live in an apartment with three other girls, and I began to notice we were all continually putting ourselves down. I thought, I hate hearing my roommates speak negatively about their physical appearance, so why do I do the same? When our comments reached an all-time high, we decided we wanted to change.

 

So here’s what we did... 

We came up with a simple game. Each time one of us would speak negatively about her physical appearance, she would receive a tally under her name on a list. The person with the least amount of points at the end of three months would win a prize. Simple.

 
And here’s what we learned...

 

We used negative self-talk a lot more than we realized.

I knew I spoke badly about myself pretty often. We all did. That’s why we chose to do this experiment. But, I don’t think any of us realized how bad it truly was until we started seeing the “numbers” add up. Having a visual representation of our negativity was powerful, leading to an even greater desire for change. 

1
We used negative self-talk a lot more than we realized.

I knew I spoke badly about myself pretty often. We all did. That’s why we chose to do this experiment. But, I don’t think any of us realized how bad it truly was until we started seeing the “numbers” add up. Having a visual representation of our negativity was powerful, leading to an even greater desire for change. 

Humor is a powerful substitute.

When we caught ourselves saying something negative, we’d laugh and replace it with something opposite. For example, if I were about to say my pants were too tight, I’d catch myself and say, “Wow, my ass is just too great for these jeans!” Our self-love sarcasm method not only helped us cut back on our tallies, but it also helped create a more positive feeling in our apartment. Rather than being upset over the way we looked, we’d find ourselves laughing hysterically at each other. Instead of individually putting ourselves down in the mirror, we all yelled compliments about ourselves across the apartment. It was actually fun.

2
Humor is a powerful substitute.

When we caught ourselves saying something negative, we’d laugh and replace it with something opposite. For example, if I were about to say my pants were too tight, I’d catch myself and say, “Wow, my ass is just too great for these jeans!” Our self-love sarcasm method not only helped us cut back on our tallies, but it also helped create a more positive feeling in our apartment. Rather than being upset over the way we looked, we’d find ourselves laughing hysterically at each other. Instead of individually putting ourselves down in the mirror, we all yelled compliments about ourselves across the apartment. It was actually fun.

My words affect others.

My roommates and I didn’t realize how much our words affected one another. Our comparison skewed our visions of ourselves. On a night when I was feeling particularly unattractive and thought my roommate looked amazing, her negative self-talk only made me feel worse about myself and vice versa. By eliminating it altogether, I not only helped myself, but the people around me as well. 

3
My words affect others.

My roommates and I didn’t realize how much our words affected one another. Our comparison skewed our visions of ourselves. On a night when I was feeling particularly unattractive and thought my roommate looked amazing, her negative self-talk only made me feel worse about myself and vice versa. By eliminating it altogether, I not only helped myself, but the people around me as well. 

Our negative talk was just a bad habit.

By the end of the three months, we would naturally catch ourselves before making any self-hating comments, virtually eliminating them from our home. I realized when I didn’t hear my roommates hating on themselves, I automatically felt better about my own appearance. Before long, the humor was no longer a coping mechanism, but a powerful tool for self-love. Of course, we all have our days. However, my overall view of myself has improved a ton since then. Negative self-talk is just a habit, and breaking it can change your life.

4
Our negative talk was just a bad habit.

By the end of the three months, we would naturally catch ourselves before making any self-hating comments, virtually eliminating them from our home. I realized when I didn’t hear my roommates hating on themselves, I automatically felt better about my own appearance. Before long, the humor was no longer a coping mechanism, but a powerful tool for self-love. Of course, we all have our days. However, my overall view of myself has improved a ton since then. Negative self-talk is just a habit, and breaking it can change your life.

Sara Lesher
Written by
Sara Lesher
Marketing Content Associate
About the author
Spoiled by the San Diego sunshine, Sara’s hobbies include beaching, hiking, concert-going, and brewery-hopping. As Mindbody’s marketing content associate, she naturally loves reading and writing… so if you have any book recommendations, let her know. And just between us: she’s committed to health and wellness but loves a good taco (shoutout TJ Tacos in Escondido).
man working out
Fitness
Published Wednesday Sep 23, 2020 by Sara Lesher

5 Things Instructors Are Doing to Improve Their Virtual Fitness Classes

Fitness
Virtual Classes
Mindbody Community

By now, we all know the benefits of virtual and online fitness classes, but we’d be remiss if we didn’t talk about some of the struggles. To adapt to the COVID-19 pandemic, studios and instructors all over the world had to get crafty, many with little-to-no experience with live streaming or recording workouts at home (so, if you haven’t, make sure you send your instructors a quick thank you—because they deserve it). Now that we’ve realized virtual fitness is here to stay—and we’ve all had lots of practice—the virtual experience is getting a whole lot better. 

Here’s what your favorite studios and instructors are doing to improve their virtual fitness classes right now: 


1.    Making classes easy to access 


Everything seems harder than it must be right now...which is why jumping through hoops to get into a class should be the last thing on your mind. As with most things, the simpler, the better (unless we’re talking about the actual workout). Studios are working on creating a one-button experience to join a class. You sign up, get an email, press ‘join,’ and you’re in. And if something happens with your WiFi and you end up getting kicked out, no worries. One button click and you’re back in, without even missing a circuit. 


2.    Quality video, quality workouts 


If there's one thing more annoying than not having easy access to classes, it’s bad quality and connection. We’ve all found ourselves in online classes where you literally can’t follow along due to poor connectivity causing instructors to freeze every five seconds. Or if it’s an on-demand class that doesn’t buffer, you’re stuck looking at a spinning wheel as your heart rate decreases at the worst possible time. Not fun.  

Now, studios and instructors are doing their absolute best to make sure they have top-notch WiFi and streaming services so we can work out without delays. Better cameras, lighting, and space setups are just a few of the investments instructors and studios are making to make virtual workouts as close to the in-studio experience as possible. 

3.    The sound of music... and the instructor’s voice 


For most, working out with music is a must. But figuring out how to balance tunes with the instructor’s voice can be a challenge. In the studio, they have state-of-the-art speakers blasting playlists throughout class, and oftentimes they have headset mics—all adjusted to the perfect volume so you can sweat to the beat, without missing a beat.  

But at home, it’s a little more difficult. Now that instructors have had some time to work on it, they’re figuring it out. Some instructors suggest playlists for you, others have mastered the perfect music to voice volume ratio, and some have invested in some high-quality mic setups for their home studios. In yoga instructor, Dani Schenone’s words, “Instructors are Jedi masters at the music-to-voice volume ratio at this point. When necessary, external microphones offer an amazingly clear experience. I record my classes and listen back, noticing any audio issues I need to address the next time around.” We’re getting there together, and again, thank your instructors. This isn’t easy. 
 

quality video quote


4.    Setup and prep 


With instructors improving their own spaces for filming workouts, we need to be doing the same as attendees. An instructor’s key to creating a good virtual experience is making it all replicable—creating a space and using equipment that’s realistic for anyone to mimic at home. If they're using weights, they should let you know ahead of time, and maybe even give some household items you can use as alternatives.  

Instructors are people too, and they know this. They’re coming up with tons of creative ways to make the experience easier for you, whether it’s propping up their cameras so you can see their entire setup and body, notifying you of equipment needs early in the booking process, or teaching classes that can realistically fit in most spaces. 
 

props quote


5.    Keeping us engaged—and motivated 


Have you seen the videos of teachers trying to keep their kindergarteners engaged over Zoom? Fitness classes are not much different. Signing up for group fitness classes means more motivation and encouragement, so we can’t skip out on the hard moves and cut our workouts short when we’re feeling tired. Instructors, though, have an interesting challenge—keeping that spirit up through a computer or phone screen. And right now (as always), they’re stepping up in several ways: 
    •    They’re always on time, beginning and ending class right when they say they will. 

    •    They talk through all the moves, so you don’t constantly have to be looking at the screen, and demo them at least twice in case you missed the first one.  

    •    They shout out words of encouragement and call people out by name, just as they would at an in-studio class.  

    •    They give tips and pointers for perfecting your form, even if they can’t always see you. 

    •    They have a positive attitude throughout the class and are consistent with their delivery, so we always know what to expect.  

    •    They’re our superstars, and we love them for it. 

 

mcalister quote


Shifting from IRL to virtual fitness has not come without its own set of complications, but let’s not forget about the struggles of the people on the other side of that screen. Our instructors are working hard out here to make these classes better because they genuinely care about our health, well-being, and sense of community.  

Virtual classes are here to stay, and they’re just going to keep getting better and better. Thank you, instructors. 

Sara Lesher
Written by
Sara Lesher
Marketing Content Associate
About the author
Spoiled by the San Diego sunshine, Sara’s hobbies include beaching, hiking, concert-going, and brewery-hopping. As Mindbody’s marketing content associate, she naturally loves reading and writing… so if you have any book recommendations, let her know. And just between us: she’s committed to health and wellness but loves a good taco (shoutout TJ Tacos in Escondido).