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Wellness
Published Thursday Nov 21, 2019 by Sara Lesher

How I Learned to Love My Appearance By Ditching Negative Talk

Personal Growth
Motivation
Perspective

I have always been guilty of negative self-talk. I constantly make little comments about my physical appearance—the way my pants are fitting, the extra frizz in my hair today. The list goes on and on. I think this is something we’ve all been guilty of, maybe without even realizing it. 

I used to live in an apartment with three other girls, and I began to notice we were all continually putting ourselves down. I thought, I hate hearing my roommates speak negatively about their physical appearance, so why do I do the same? When our comments reached an all-time high, we decided we wanted to change.

 

So here’s what we did... 

We came up with a simple game. Each time one of us would speak negatively about her physical appearance, she would receive a tally under her name on a list. The person with the least amount of points at the end of three months would win a prize. Simple.

 
And here’s what we learned...

 

We used negative self-talk a lot more than we realized.

I knew I spoke badly about myself pretty often. We all did. That’s why we chose to do this experiment. But, I don’t think any of us realized how bad it truly was until we started seeing the “numbers” add up. Having a visual representation of our negativity was powerful, leading to an even greater desire for change. 

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We used negative self-talk a lot more than we realized.

I knew I spoke badly about myself pretty often. We all did. That’s why we chose to do this experiment. But, I don’t think any of us realized how bad it truly was until we started seeing the “numbers” add up. Having a visual representation of our negativity was powerful, leading to an even greater desire for change. 

Humor is a powerful substitute.

When we caught ourselves saying something negative, we’d laugh and replace it with something opposite. For example, if I were about to say my pants were too tight, I’d catch myself and say, “Wow, my ass is just too great for these jeans!” Our self-love sarcasm method not only helped us cut back on our tallies, but it also helped create a more positive feeling in our apartment. Rather than being upset over the way we looked, we’d find ourselves laughing hysterically at each other. Instead of individually putting ourselves down in the mirror, we all yelled compliments about ourselves across the apartment. It was actually fun.

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Humor is a powerful substitute.

When we caught ourselves saying something negative, we’d laugh and replace it with something opposite. For example, if I were about to say my pants were too tight, I’d catch myself and say, “Wow, my ass is just too great for these jeans!” Our self-love sarcasm method not only helped us cut back on our tallies, but it also helped create a more positive feeling in our apartment. Rather than being upset over the way we looked, we’d find ourselves laughing hysterically at each other. Instead of individually putting ourselves down in the mirror, we all yelled compliments about ourselves across the apartment. It was actually fun.

My words affect others.

My roommates and I didn’t realize how much our words affected one another. Our comparison skewed our visions of ourselves. On a night when I was feeling particularly unattractive and thought my roommate looked amazing, her negative self-talk only made me feel worse about myself and vice versa. By eliminating it altogether, I not only helped myself, but the people around me as well. 

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My words affect others.

My roommates and I didn’t realize how much our words affected one another. Our comparison skewed our visions of ourselves. On a night when I was feeling particularly unattractive and thought my roommate looked amazing, her negative self-talk only made me feel worse about myself and vice versa. By eliminating it altogether, I not only helped myself, but the people around me as well. 

Our negative talk was just a bad habit.

By the end of the three months, we would naturally catch ourselves before making any self-hating comments, virtually eliminating them from our home. I realized when I didn’t hear my roommates hating on themselves, I automatically felt better about my own appearance. Before long, the humor was no longer a coping mechanism, but a powerful tool for self-love. Of course, we all have our days. However, my overall view of myself has improved a ton since then. Negative self-talk is just a habit, and breaking it can change your life.

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Our negative talk was just a bad habit.

By the end of the three months, we would naturally catch ourselves before making any self-hating comments, virtually eliminating them from our home. I realized when I didn’t hear my roommates hating on themselves, I automatically felt better about my own appearance. Before long, the humor was no longer a coping mechanism, but a powerful tool for self-love. Of course, we all have our days. However, my overall view of myself has improved a ton since then. Negative self-talk is just a habit, and breaking it can change your life.

Sara Lesher
Written by
Sara Lesher
Marketing Content Associate
About the author
Spoiled by the San Diego sunshine, Sara’s hobbies include beaching, hiking, concert-going, and brewery-hopping. As Mindbody’s marketing content associate, she naturally loves reading and writing… so if you have any book recommendations, let her know. And just between us: she’s committed to health and wellness but loves a good taco (shoutout TJ Tacos in Escondido).
What Are the Benefits of an Online Gym Membership?
Fitness
Published Monday Sep 21, 2020 by Sara Lesher

What Are the Benefits of an Online Gym Membership?

That’s something I never expected to hear. Think about it: we join gyms and studios because of their equipment, instructors, space, community (and AC, of course). But who’s to say we can’t get all that—or at least most of it—with virtual and online classes, too? In this new wave of wellness, we’re all switching up our fitness routines as we switch up our everyday schedules and habits. It’s not just in-studio or at-home anymore. It’s in-studio, at-home, at the park, beach, parking lot, rooftop...virtual, hybrid, Instagram Live, online, on-demand, and so much more. As we’re adapting, adjusting, finding our groove, etc., online gym memberships enter the frayHas a nice ring to it, doesn’t it? 

So, why should we care about online gym memberships? 

There are tons of benefits to an online gym membership, especially right now.

Let’s break this down: 

1. Scheduling convenience 

A virtual/online gym fitness membership is a monthly subscription that gives you access to tons of live stream fitness classes you can take anywhere, from studios across the globe. These fitness studios offer tons of at-home workouts, group exercise, and one-on-one training sessions to choose from, no matter your exercise program or fitness level. With so many options, it’s easy to find one that fits your schedule. Whether you want to fit in a morning flow before work, combat that afternoon slump with some cardio, squeeze in some strength training before dinner, or wind down with an evening barre class, you can pick and choose classes to fit your fitness routine. 

2. Minimizing exposure to COVID-19 

And because they’re online, you can take these classes from the comfort of your home (or wherever you are), thus minimizing your exposure to COVID-19 and eliminating your commute to the gym or studio. By now, many of us have our designated “workout spot,” whether it’s an actual weight room, a quick scooch of the coffee table, or a grassy area in the backyard. Maybe you’re comfortable here... maybe you’ve even learned to love it.  

With an online gym membership, you can stay in your safe space/comfy workout spot. Or, you can go somewhere new (local park, beach spot, a different area of the house, you know). You can access these virtual, live stream fitness classes from any device, so you can prop up your phone, laptop, or tablet wherever you want to go, or roll out your mat in front of the big screen TV in your living room. 

3. Variety 

We all have our favorite, go-to workouts. But sometimes, it feels good to switch it up (especially right now). Working from home all day, many of us are craving some variety and excitement, and an online gym membership can definitely help with that. According to our recent poll about COVID’s effect on our fitness routines, 64% of you have tried new online workouts since the start of the pandemic—I know I have. Maybe it’s because trying new things is easier in the comfort of our homes, maybe we’re finally able to try some classes we normally can’t find locally, or maybe we’re all just bored out of our minds...I don’t know. But I’m excited about it.  

With an online gym membership, you can get that spice you’re looking for easily. Start out your Monday by hitting some HIIT, ease your sore muscles with some Restorative Yoga, and end the week with some dance cardio to pretend you’re at the club. The world is yours. 

What Are the Benefits of an Online Gym Membership?

 

4. Working out without a commute 

My favorite part? No commute. There are literally no more excuses when it comes to skipping workouts. No traffic, no schedule conflicts, no fear of returning to the studio. You don’t even have to worry about packing a gym bag with a change of clothes and shower supplies or prepping a snack or protein shake to bring to work. Just shut your computer, throw on some leggings, and get to work. 

5. Community 

Community—the element of online fitness memberships we don’t often think of. When we go into studios, we understand the beauty of a fitness community. We’re greeted by our instructors, we chat with others in the class, and we all sweat together and encourage each other throughout. But working out at home is different... or is it?  

We can do workouts on our own at home all we want, but we’re definitely going to miss out on the community aspect we all know and love. But, with live stream classes, we can create a different kind of community. The beauty of it? It’s not just your neighbors anymore. Anyone with an online fitness membership can join these classes, regardless of where they’re located in relation to the studio, so you can be working out alongside people from all over the world—now that’s something I can get behind. 

 
Interested yet?

Sara Lesher
Written by
Sara Lesher
Marketing Content Associate
About the author
Spoiled by the San Diego sunshine, Sara’s hobbies include beaching, hiking, concert-going, and brewery-hopping. As Mindbody’s marketing content associate, she naturally loves reading and writing… so if you have any book recommendations, let her know. And just between us: she’s committed to health and wellness but loves a good taco (shoutout TJ Tacos in Escondido).